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Jenna Park's avatar

Tim, sending good thoughts regarding your partner’s father. This time of aging parents is so hard.

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Tim McFarlane Studio's avatar

Thanks, Jenna.

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Indigene Theresa's avatar

I’m sorry to hear about your partner’s Dad. It is good that he has caring family to ease him into this new transition of life. Be sure to take extra care of yourselves, since I’ve found these transitions for the adult child brings about so much emotional feelings. Congratulations on the sale, it’s great when older works get a new home!

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Tim McFarlane Studio's avatar

Thanks for your comments, Indigene. We’re making sure to take care of ourselves. It was probably the most stressful week we’ve had since being together, but thankfully, things are in a better place and evolving.

Thank you, re: the sale. It’s made my life a bit easier in the short term.

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Kate Kern Mundie's avatar

Congratulations on the painting sale. I'm sorry to hear about Julia's dad. Taking care of aging parents is hard.

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Tim McFarlane Studio's avatar

Thanks for your comments, Kate. These years can be tough, but we’re adjusting and he’s better, so that makes things easier to bear.

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Nancy Sokolove's avatar

Glad to hear that things have resolved so much with her dad AND that you’ve recently sold that very large and very beautiful painting! Can’t wait to hopefully see an install photo!

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Tina Leonard's avatar

I’m glad to hear Julia’s dad is doing better. Hope the two of you can take time now for some self care.

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Nancy Natale's avatar

Memory is such abig component of who each of us is. When it starts to get lost, it shakes the foundation of how we think of ourself and who we are. I speak from experience as I grow older and the past becomes farther away. I’m glad that you were able to get help for Julia’s dad and get back to the studio. Big congrats on selling that giant piece! Always a reason to celebrate when the work actually shows a return! Thanks for keeping us posted and enjoy working despite the destruction happening around us.

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illustr8d's avatar

well done figuring out what was going on with your partner's dad. that's not an easy one. (a friend's mom ended up with an allergy to morphine and the hospital thought she had Alzheimers. we had to throw a fit about it to get them to take her off it and see if her cognitive abilities improved, which they did.)

life gets in the way of art sometimes. but we probably wouldn't have it any other way. (other than him never having to go through this in the first place.)

congrats on the painting sale. that's a great piece! love it.

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Tim McFarlane Studio's avatar

Thanks. The figuring out part was all Julia's. She's been on top of everything that's been going on with her dad. I'm glad that we didn't have to go through what your friend did with her mother.

I'm used to life getting in the way of art. It wasn't a bad thing, since I wasn't in the middle of working on anything major.

Thanks! re: the sale. I'm very happy to have it out of the basement and heading to a new home.

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illustr8d's avatar

well done Julia, then. and you for being a good partner. if one is very lucky, when this sort of thing happens there's a team of people who have decided the person going through this matters.

I so understand re: not being in the middle of a major work. good timing at least.

and yay to new homes for beautiful, thoughtful art!

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Sunshine's avatar

You have been through a lot.

I am glad to hear that things worked out well although I know how exhausting these circumstances can be. It can drain you. I am my mom's caregiver so I can relate from lived experience.

I love the photos - what views! And the energy of your painting!

Wishing you smoother days, peace, and studio time.

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Tim McFarlane Studio's avatar

It was an intense week, no doubt. We both were completely drained by this past weekend. I hadn't felt that kind of exhaustion in a long time. I know you understand.

Thank you, I'm glad the photos and painting struck a nerve.

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Wade Johnston's avatar

I’m sorry to hear about your partner’s dad. I’ve been there. I was pretty much the only care taker for my mom for the last 5 years of her life. She was as independent as she could be until her stroke at 91. I ended up moving her to assisted living where she enjoyed 24 hour help as needed for two more years. I hope your partners dad with live in assistance has many more years ahead of him. Sometimes life just gets in the way of studio time. It’s just the way it is, so don’t be hard on yourself.

Congratulations on selling the painting. After it’s stretched and hung up be sure to post photos in situ of it. We’d love to see it.

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Tim McFarlane Studio's avatar

Thanks for your thoughts, Wade. Her father is incredibly independent, also. I'm just glad that his mind has returned to normal. Life getting in the way of art is nothing new and I actually wasn't feeling bad about not being here. It was just unexpected.

Thanks, concerning the sale. I'll definitely share the stretched and installed version.

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